Toya and Reginae S02 Ep06 - Wheres My Apology
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00:00Previously on Toya and Reginae.
00:04What causes you to be disrespectful to your family?
00:07They don't respect me as a man.
00:10What are you willing to do starting today
00:12so that you can get back on track?
00:13Starting today, apologize to my sister.
00:16I'm hoping and praying that there's a new KC.
00:19But I feel like his actions is going to have to show that.
00:23Beeda and Mel back together.
00:26Well, see, did you know that, too?
00:29I told them to tell you.
00:31Oh, that's messed up for real.
00:34Finally here.
00:35This is nice.
00:37We finally made it to Louisiana for the family reunion.
00:41I'm just looking forward to a peaceful, fun time.
00:44Oh, the family is here, brother.
00:50My grandpa was rolling like a rolling stone
00:54through the neighborhood, having kids.
00:57But my grandma didn't like that.
01:00He was going to make babies on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays,
01:03and Fridays.
01:04My mom is not joking around.
01:06I'm just hoping that this don't cause
01:07her to spiral out of control.
01:09Oh, Lord.
01:10If y'all trying to blame me, Toya,
01:11stop taking up for your daddy.
01:12Toya?
01:13Why you is getting upset with me for that?
01:14Because you always taking up for your daddy.
01:16I'm sorry.
01:26Y'all don't think that bad, it won't be an apology?
01:28Come on, Ma, come back.
01:29Don't run away now.
01:29That man is crazy.
01:30Ma, come back.
01:33Hold up, y'all.
01:34We're about to ask this question.
01:35Give me the phone.
01:36Give me that, son. Come on.
01:37What's down with it?
01:37Bring it.
01:38You see?
01:39My ma was to apologize to you.
01:43I was there when she was breaking TV.
01:46I know you was.
01:46I was there, too.
01:47You was there for a lot of s**t.
01:49I know.
01:50A lot of s**t.
01:50See, I could talk all day, she gonna stay here.
01:53When Walt or somebody else come in, she out.
01:56When you start talking, she gone.
01:57She broke camp.
02:02She broke camp.
02:02Ma, come back.
02:04Run away, child.
02:05She's nobody taking up for her.
02:06She's nobody taking up for her, for real.
02:08Y'all are really, I really, I really
02:10was waiting for Uncle Walter to say something,
02:13because I thought he was saying something on the phone.
02:15All of y'all is going and laughing at Uncle,
02:18but he really, like, saying, like, cold shoulder.
02:22And she's saying, she's showing she hurt.
02:24Nobody taking up for her.
02:26None of her kids taking up for her.
02:27That's between them two.
02:28They need to talk about that.
02:30Y'all be getting on in it.
02:31I didn't know her about Grandpa.
02:32I just watched that.
02:33Nobody took up for her.
02:35They know they mama.
02:37Exactly.
02:38Exactly.
02:39So you be a grandchild.
02:41But she still can get up, probably.
02:43Yeah, I mean, she can.
02:44I just told him the apology.
02:45I can't make him do it.
02:46Now you be a grandchild, girl.
02:49I think Nae speaking up for Mama Nita was big for her.
02:53Someone needed to do it.
02:54Like, she's really hurt.
02:56And she felt, she felt alone.
02:59Actually, I'm going to do that.
03:00Huh?
03:01What?
03:02Be a grandchild, my love.
03:04Be a who?
03:05Resolve to what she did or how bad it worked out?
03:07Here, get this mic off you.
03:09I feel like my mom was kind of trying to say,
03:15like, stay in a child's place.
03:16And it's like, I'm grown now.
03:18That kind of made me mad because it's like,
03:20I'm old enough to understand how and why
03:23my grandma could be hurt right now.
03:25OK, y'all.
03:26She came to get me.
03:27She said she don't have no backup out here.
03:29Y'all all against her.
03:30Nobody is against her, first of all.
03:33And it's my mama.
03:34Y'all can't do her that.
03:35She need an apology, Pop.
03:37No.
03:38If y'all want to give him a reunion meeting,
03:40that's not right.
03:41Her feelings was hurt.
03:42And it's a joke to him.
03:43Joke?
03:44What kind of joke?
03:45I'm about to tell you right now.
03:46That's really a joke.
03:47Yeah, ain't no joke, love.
03:48That's not a joke.
03:48Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
03:49No, but you got to express that to him.
03:51Like, you telling me to say it to me?
03:52You giving a family reunion for your dad.
03:55And this child's dad is not, a mom is not even here.
03:59This child's mom not even here.
03:59What they supposed to be here for?
04:01Why you want everybody's mom to be here for?
04:02That's how much grateful we giving you to,
04:04you know what I'm saying?
04:05And I'm her mother.
04:07I do believe my mom deserves an apology from my dad.
04:10Absolutely.
04:11But I just feel like right now is
04:12not the time or place for it.
04:14Because all of his kids may feel uncomfortable,
04:17you know, tapping into that.
04:19And that's just not why we're here.
04:21I want him to apologize to Hanu.
04:24She's hurt.
04:25Regardless if she's hurt.
04:27She's still hurt.
04:28Things are going left.
04:29And Toya, I don't think she paid attention
04:33to how her mom was feeling.
04:35But I need to talk to her.
04:37Her mom need her at this time.
04:40Listen, ma.
04:41You are the realest person we know, baby.
04:44Tell him this.
04:44Listen, y'all two have made some beautiful kids.
04:48That's what I do.
04:48You hear me?
04:49So whether he was wrong, whether he was a player,
04:53he did what he did, Walter is responsible
04:56for everybody down right now.
04:58Just give me an apology.
05:00That's not what she want here.
05:02That's the thing.
05:02What she want here is she feel like she
05:05was in love with this man.
05:07She had kids with this man.
05:08And he had kids on her.
05:10This was kind of the first time me witnessing my mom
05:13actually feeling a way for real, for real,
05:15and actually seeing it.
05:16I'm just kind of being quiet, processing all of this,
05:19you know, and just kind of just very shocked.
05:21Walter, I'm feeling for her, and she want to be involved.
05:25OK, I got a time out right here.
05:27OK, I got a time out right here.
05:28Because this is my mom, and this is my dad.
05:32I know both sides of the story.
05:33Hold on, right.
05:34Hold on, Walter.
05:35It's deeper than what we're talking about.
05:36So they got to come together and have that conversation.
05:39I agree.
05:40If she feels like you hurt her, and he
05:42feels like she hurt him, they got to deal with that.
05:44Because the hurt is on both sides.
05:45He's not going to say it, but he deal with some stuff too,
05:48and she dealt with some stuff.
05:49So it's deeper than what we know.
05:51So they need to talk.
05:52So that's not what I was going to do.
05:54And we forgive my daddy as being his kid.
05:59That's why we're here today.
06:00I was not talking to this man.
06:02For reasons, whatever, I was not talking to him.
06:05A lot of us have our own issues with my dad,
06:08and that's what this moment is about right now.
06:10There's some hurt between the two of them
06:12that they've been through.
06:13It's deeper than what we know.
06:15So just like he owe you an apology,
06:17you know I know you owe him one too.
06:19So the both of them owe each other an apology
06:21to put this on the floor and make it fair.
06:23I don't think I owe him nothing.
06:24I think you do.
06:25And my brother know he, you know.
06:27We know.
06:29So we know what the.
06:31So let's keep it going.
06:32Let's keep it going.
06:33Back to what it is that the conversation is.
06:36We're trying to put down KK or all these other mothers.
06:38No, listen.
06:39We're never.
06:40I love my mama, and I'm here for her all the time.
06:43But guess what?
06:44Why does right wrong get wrong?
06:46Why does right wrong get wrong?
06:47They both deserve apology from each other.
06:51My mom, she got on drugs.
06:53My dad wind up getting off drugs.
06:56She wind up staying on drugs.
06:57She wind up leaving her kids.
07:00Dad was a rolling stone.
07:01Making babies every day.
07:03And everything got out of control.
07:04And that leaves us.
07:07Kids with no guidance.
07:10My daddy could talk that ****.
07:12Act like it's all cool or whatever.
07:13But he dealt with some stuff with my mom.
07:15I'm not taking up for either one of them.
07:17I was laughing and joking and playing.
07:19Because my mama is.
07:21A part of the marriage thing is a part of it.
07:23But my mama know that it's way deeper than that.
07:27My mama knows this.
07:29There's really all too much to deal with right now.
07:31It's stressing me out.
07:33I'm getting too emotional right now.
07:35I know everybody like, you know, we're all teaming up on my mom.
07:38Like, no, we're not teaming up on my mom.
07:40I'm not picking sides.
07:41We're playing.
07:42We're joking.
07:42Whatever, whatever.
07:43Do I feel like my mom is hurt?
07:44Yeah.
07:45And I also feel like he hurt too.
07:47So that's something that the two of them have to deal with.
07:52You know how you be thinking about something and.
07:55You just catch flashbacks or whatever and.
07:59Can't stop.
08:01Like tears from flowing down your eye.
08:04I meet.
08:05Brothers and sisters that I've never even seen a day in my life before.
08:10You don't think that's emotional.
08:12When you already lost two brothers already.
08:14And I was also thinking about why my dad couldn't come get me.
08:17I really don't want to cry in front of everybody.
08:19But it was like, I can't stop.
08:20My mom is still hurting because she still really loves you or whatever.
08:24Y'all got some unresolved issues that haven't been put on the table.
08:32Coming up on Toya and Reginae.
08:35You felt like we were just watching you be attacked.
08:37That's how you felt.
08:38Yeah, that's how I felt with you.
08:40Only you.
08:43We don't want to really face that real life.
08:45We.
08:45Baby steps.
08:48Has Beanie burped?
08:49Has Beanie burped Mel around yet since you know?
08:52She did tell me she wanted me to talk to Mel.
08:54I'm anxious now to talk to your sister.
09:04My mom is still hurting because she still really loves you or whatever.
09:08And y'all got some unresolved issues that haven't been put on the table.
09:13I'm thinking about a lot of stuff.
09:15Thinking about things in the past.
09:17Thinking about my brothers.
09:18You know, thinking about a lot.
09:21Especially after doing well in therapy,
09:23hearing my parents fight about stuff that's in the past.
09:27Like bringing up old memories.
09:29I really ain't trying to hear that right now.
09:32My mama had her situations going on.
09:35You had your going on.
09:36Neither one of y'all are perfect.
09:38You know, I love you.
09:39I just told you early.
09:40I'm proud of you.
09:42So it's time for y'all to forgive each other and move on.
09:44Like it's about building and growing.
09:46This is what this beautiful moment is really supposed to be.
09:49Ultimately, I'm just happy that my mom was able
10:19to get an apology.
10:20But I just feel like my mom tends to make things about her sometimes.
10:28And now Casey is crying.
10:30It's turning into something totally different.
10:33Y'all feel like I disrespected y'all?
10:36What's going on now?
10:38I just feel like, you know,
10:41I tried to kind of be neutral with the situation because I know,
10:45like I said, like I told y'all,
10:47we know the real.
10:49It's a way to handle things, you know what I'm saying?
10:51Especially when dealing with my mom
10:53and the things that y'all been through.
10:54So I feel like it's a more respectful way to handle it.
10:58Right, right.
10:59And I respect what you're saying because just like your brother.
11:09Daddy, don't cry, dog.
11:10I knew that was about to happen, bro.
11:12I knew that was about to happen.
11:13That's why I didn't even want to open that can.
11:16Dog, that's crazy.
11:18It's all right, daddy.
11:20Don't cry, daddy.
11:22Don't cry.
11:23Come on.
11:24She's not even moving, bro.
11:25She's gone.
11:28Me and him ain't never gotten time
11:31to get right with each other, bro.
11:33For all this stupid ass s**t.
11:35I don't like that nigga stupid ass s**t, bro.
11:37It's okay, daddy.
11:37I don't like it.
11:38It's okay.
11:39It's okay.
11:40I think apologizing to my mom and, you know,
11:43really triggered my dad
11:45because he wasn't able to give Rudy that apology.
11:48I was at that same place with my dad that Rudy was at.
11:52But I got a chance to, you know, forgive him,
11:55let it go and try to build a better relationship.
11:58Rudy didn't get that opportunity.
12:00And I know my dad deals with that each and every day.
12:05I just did not expect things to end up like this.
12:10Yes, bro.
12:11I love both of y'all, bro.
12:12I love both of y'all a lot.
12:13Yeah, you're right.
12:15I love you, brother.
12:16I love you, dog.
12:17Same, yo, man.
12:19I feel like both of my parents released so much of their hurt
12:23from these past years, especially since my brothers died.
12:27Definitely made me think about the things that I do hold back,
12:30especially when it comes down to my sister
12:31because it's things that we do need to hash
12:33as far as understanding each other.
12:35I definitely be nervous about
12:38keeping everything so bottled in
12:40because I know one day it's just going to all just burst.
12:42And I'm very nervous about that.
12:44Girl, they got to get stuff off their chest and f*** my dad.
12:47But I'm saying, this is not about her right now.
12:50It's another moment of making this about her.
12:53It's not about her.
12:54This moment was put together for my dad and his kids.
12:57This is not that.
12:57I get it, but it triggered her.
13:00And they both are triggered.
13:01But you know what I think?
13:03I think seeing all these kids,
13:04I think that's what this will trigger.
13:07She's still loving him.
13:08She's still mad.
13:09They love each other.
13:10That's the problem, right?
13:11Because Nita still loves Walter,
13:14I just really feel like this was a lot for her to take on today
13:19because there is still some unresolved issues.
13:22And I really feel like Toya not taking Nita's side in that moment,
13:27that really hurt her probably the most.
13:30They got to get that s*** off.
13:31They're too old to still be holding all that.
13:33She just came in there like,
13:35I just feel attacked.
13:36I was like, what's wrong?
13:37And she was like, everybody against me.
13:40Even your sister against me.
13:42And she's nobody.
13:43Nothing really no against type of thing.
13:45And she was like, I just want an apology.
13:47What I was telling her is you tell my dad.
13:49She's putting it to my dad and then tell me to say it to him.
13:53And I'm like, this is how you feel.
13:55I forgave him.
13:58This is what I told him.
13:59You have always had to be the adult in a situation.
14:03That's not fair.
14:04It was like your mama.
14:05It was like you was your mama mama.
14:07And you was your daddy mama.
14:08And your siblings mama.
14:09And your siblings mama.
14:11So you always had to be the adult.
14:13So when anything go wrong in the situation,
14:15I get blamed.
14:16You got to take the charge.
14:18Everyone always tells me to stop trying to fix everybody.
14:22When I have to fix everything, it always fall on me.
14:27Toya gonna do it.
14:28Toya got it.
14:29Or when I don't say nothing, it's a problem.
14:31When I do say something, it's a problem.
14:33When I'm not doing it, it's like damned if you do,
14:36damned if you don't.
14:37But that kind of make me feel like I shouldn't even
14:39have brought my mama into this situation.
14:41Because that wasn't what this supposed to have.
14:44That's what this was.
14:45I ain't family.
14:55That's why I'm so young.
14:58I ain't see everybody.
15:01Can't work out every day.
15:02Get a family.
15:03This my uncle, y'all.
15:05How old are you?
15:0612.
15:09This ain't my uncle.
15:11Why is you eating out the box like this?
15:13What?
15:24Just wanted to check in with you.
15:26I know there's a lot came out that was real between your mom
15:29and your dad.
15:29A lot of emotion came out.
15:32So I just wanted to see how you were feeling, check in with you.
15:35It just was one of those moments, like the flow.
15:41But I controlled it.
15:42There's just a lot that was going on.
15:44It's a lot of pain, man.
15:45It's a lot of pain.
15:46That pain we've been talking about.
15:47It's just everything.
15:49Yeah.
15:49That's the stuff you've been trying to get through in therapy, right?
15:52Just to try to get to the source of that pain.
15:54And I think today, it all came together.
15:57Your mom or your daddy, your siblings, it was all here.
15:59It was released.
16:00It was released.
16:02And when you let go, and you continue the therapy,
16:04and you continue to be real, it's going to lift off of you.
16:08And you're going to be able to do what you're here to do.
16:11I really want to work on, you know, being in a good spot,
16:15in a good place with everybody that I really love, you know.
16:19But I worry about the anger issues.
16:21Coming back for real, for real.
16:23Now look at my son, man.
16:25What?
16:26Cam!
16:29And I love my family, man.
16:30We all, we all together, bruh.
16:33I love it.
16:34This, this, this is beautiful.
16:37Y'all have a beautiful family.
16:38You're gonna cry too.
16:39I was about, I was crying under these dancers.
16:41Probably was.
16:41Y'all was emotional.
16:42It's too emotional.
16:43It was very real.
16:44But I want to get back, though, to that, man.
16:47Come on, let's, I don't want to.
17:00I'm talking loyalty, that's loyalty, loyalty.
17:03I'm talking loyalty, that's loyalty, loyalty.
17:06I'm talking loyalty, that's loyalty, loyalty.
17:09I'm talking loyalty, yeah.
17:14Juanita.
17:16Where she at?
17:17I need to go talk to her.
17:19Yes, you do.
17:20Don't talk to her.
17:21I know, that was just a lot.
17:24I mean, I really feel like that situation could have been handled better.
17:29But it just, it just be hard.
17:31Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
17:33Calm down, calm down.
17:35Just talk to her.
17:36Let her know you got her back.
17:38Right, I do.
17:39Listen, listen, listen.
17:40Because at the end of the day, I know this for your dad.
17:43We're here for your dad.
17:44But that's my mom.
17:45But that's your mom.
17:46And she caught a moment.
17:48None of us know what she feeling.
17:49Right.
17:51Yeah, at this point, Toya have to apologize to Anita.
17:54She just have to let her know that she's there for her no matter what.
17:57It's not about who's right or wrong.
17:59What happened in the past, who did this, or who did this.
18:02We're trying to mend the family.
18:04We're trying to build.
18:05And at this point right now, mama need Anita.
18:09They usually play.
18:10I don't be knowing when they serious or not, to be honest with you, babe.
18:13That's the thing.
18:14You let her know, I thought y'all was playing like you always.
18:16I really did.
18:17Like, I didn't know it was.
18:18I thought y'all was playing like you always do.
18:20And, you know, I'm here for y'all.
18:22Understand how you feeling.
18:24And I think both of you need to talk.
18:26Like you said, both of y'all need to talk.
18:28They both are wrong equally.
18:30Like, I really equally think they both are wrong.
18:32If she yearning for that, because at the end of the day, regardless,
18:36out of all them kids there, out of all her kids,
18:39if she needs somebody on the side, she gonna look to you.
18:41Right.
18:42Nobody's considering how I'm feeling.
18:44I wanted to bring us together, not pick sides.
18:47I'm under too much pressure.
18:49This reunion is stressing me out.
18:53Coming up on Toya and Reginae.
18:56Me feeling like it's you and your sons against me.
18:59I feel like I'm playing tug of war.
19:00You're supposed to.
19:01That's a lot.
19:03Oh, God.
19:04I've been waiting for this for years.
19:05I didn't see this day going this way at all.
19:09This was not in the bingo cards.
19:13What are you doing, son?
19:14It's nasty.
19:15It's not sanitary.
19:18See, this bitch need medication.
19:19Ma, Ma, after talking to Red, I really need to talk to my mom.
19:31I want to understand things from her perspective.
19:34You OK?
19:36OK.
19:36That just went so left.
19:38What?
19:39That whole situation.
19:41Yeah, I need that apology.
19:42You don't think so?
19:43No, this is the thing, Mama.
19:44I love you, and I don't ever want you to think I'm teaming.
19:47I'm not here for you or whatever.
19:50I do feel like you need the apology,
19:52but I also feel like that I wanted you and my dad to talk.
19:56I'm so used to y'all operating in that space.
20:00Remember for Thanksgiving, this is how y'all was.
20:02It's like y'all take jabs at each other.
20:03We're so used to laughing at y'all.
20:05When, to be honest, it's not funny.
20:07It's really not a joke.
20:08I understand that you are hurting.
20:10You have to be here with all of these kids.
20:14That's a lot.
20:15And it was inclusion.
20:16Never was closure with Walter with me.
20:18Y'all don't want to hear that.
20:19No, it's not that we don't.
20:20I needed that apology from your dad.
20:21You did.
20:22And he needed to give me that.
20:23I don't owe him none.
20:24He owed it to me, OK?
20:26He owed that to me.
20:28My mom, I think because she didn't get closure,
20:31it brought up a bunch of feelings that she didn't get to let out.
20:37I know that you can hurt still even years later
20:41if it's somebody you truly love, I guess.
20:43And to bring it up now and see how it really affected her,
20:47at least she's being honest.
20:49And that's all I've ever asked her to do.
20:52I'm not saying that your hurt is less, his hurt is less.
20:56As a daughter, it's a tough place to be,
20:58because I feel like I'm playing tug of war.
21:00It's like I'm in the middle.
21:01Like, tell your mama this.
21:03Or do your mama that.
21:04You're on your daddy's side.
21:05You're on your mama's side.
21:06No, I'm on family's side.
21:09This day meant so much to me to have this kind of moment.
21:13Even with your brother.
21:14Casey, I want you to be the best brother or sister y'all can be.
21:18Because I hate sisters, y'all.
21:19I know.
21:19And that's family.
21:21That's family.
21:21And I went to therapy with him.
21:23And I did that for you.
21:26OK?
21:27But I mean, I want to.
21:28I wanted to.
21:29But I want you to be happy.
21:30I know girls love their daddy.
21:32You love your son.
21:33I do.
21:34Yes, I be feeling like it's you and your son.
21:36But I ain't going to get no man right before my daughter, my son.
21:40I won't do that.
21:41I do that.
21:42You done it.
21:43You done it.
21:43You done it.
21:44With what?
21:45With your daddy.
21:46You better push that in your head, so.
21:48Mama.
21:49You did that.
21:49So I never have your back.
21:51You saying I never have your back?
21:52You never had my back before.
21:53You felt like we were just watching you be attacked.
21:56That's how you felt.
21:56That's how I felt with you.
21:58You felt like I was watching you.
21:59OK.
22:00Only you.
22:01Not my grandbaby.
22:02Not my grandbaby.
22:02Only you.
22:03You wanted me to have your back.
22:04Have my back.
22:05You're supposed to.
22:06Well, I apologize.
22:08OK, so we're putting it behind us.
22:10I'm putting it all behind us.
22:11Now it's a family.
22:12And you didn't want to change clothes and everything.
22:14Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
22:16Yeah, I was in my bra.
22:17I kept my body.
22:17Supposing my body.
22:19Supposing my body too much.
22:21OK, girl.
22:22You don't want to show your goodies.
22:23Not now.
22:24All right, well, I'm sorry, Ma, again, OK?
22:27Because I just didn't want it to be all of this.
22:30OK, T, we got it.
22:31We got it.
22:32I love you, my baby.
22:33I love you, too.
22:34All right, give me Rudy.
22:39Give me a picture.
22:39And this is his daughter.
22:40Ruru.
22:41Ruru.
22:45You look so good, you guys.
22:47Oh, my God.
22:49So you good?
22:50Yeah, yeah, I'm straight.
22:51I'm straight.
22:52Yeah.
22:52That was just, ooh, that was a lot.
22:55But I get it.
22:56She's really hurting.
22:57She really wanted an apology.
22:59And the way that it went, it kind of went left
23:01because he was making a joke of that.
23:02But I'm used to y'all playing like that.
23:04Right, right.
23:04So I don't know.
23:05That's why we all laughing.
23:06All of us used to y'all like that.
23:07Yeah, getting in the high seat.
23:08All that made jokes.
23:09In the high seat, joking.
23:11But she really hurt.
23:12And I know you are.
23:13Both of y'all hurt.
23:14But at this moment, that's a lot for her to come
23:17into this situation or whatever.
23:19So it probably was like a trigger.
23:21You know what I'm saying?
23:22That sparked up some.
23:23Man, I stood up and apologized to her.
23:27I mean, you know what I'm saying?
23:28It's all good.
23:29I just want everybody to get along.
23:32I want everybody to get along.
23:33Hey, mama.
23:35You good?
23:36We was just talking about you.
23:38I ain't talking about the situation.
23:41I thank you for my apologize.
23:42Oh, baby.
23:43That's all I can tell you.
23:44That's so sweet.
23:45I met this.
23:46I met this.
23:46You met this?
23:47Oh, Lord.
23:47I got to give you another hug.
23:48Oh, God.
23:49I've been waiting for this for years.
23:50You're right.
23:51Oh, Lord.
23:52I've been waiting for this for years.
23:53That's all I can tell you.
23:55I deserve that.
23:56Right.
23:56I had to do that.
23:57You know what I'm saying?
23:57Because it made me a little emotional behind my son.
24:01You know, the one to see.
24:03You know what I'm saying?
24:04It's like with him, man.
24:06We got killed.
24:08We was like never got to what I just came to hug you and told you.
24:13You know what I'm saying?
24:13I never got a chance to do that with him.
24:15You know, and that hit me.
24:16You know what I'm saying?
24:18Yeah.
24:18All right.
24:20This is the most that I've ever seen my parents be,
24:24you know, so open about their feelings.
24:27I guess a lot of old things is coming up and, you know, it's triggering.
24:33I didn't see this day going this way at all.
24:36This was not in the bingo cards.
24:38But it was something that needed to happen.
24:41I just want to step in and say, like, I'm glad that you did apologize.
24:45So we could move on, hug, have fun.
24:50I am so ready to change the mood around and make the best of this moment.
24:55I'm just hoping that all the drama is behind us
24:58and we can just enjoy each other in the moment.
25:02That's good.
25:19Every family function turned into something.
25:22Coming up on Toya and Reginae.
25:24I'd be angry where Toya got me blocked.
25:26That's how it got to be.
25:27Girl, I felt like terrible after.
25:31I'm like, damn.
25:32I just really don't want to deal with any of that.
25:35I never DJ for my family.
25:57It's all for me to come in and just, you know, come on my DJ, be vibing vibes.
26:01Turn everybody around, you know, change the atmosphere.
26:04It really meant a lot.
26:05This definitely gives me a lot of confidence.
26:08And just, you know, I'm excited to see everyone's approval of it.
26:12You know, this will kind of give me an idea.
26:14So when I really start my gigs, you know,
26:16just kind of really have me amped up about it.
26:34We got D-Vibe in the house.
26:40I feel like the reunion was a very therapeutic time.
26:46I'm happy that my grandma was able to get her apology.
26:49You never know what hurt you can leave on somebody by just not saying sorry.
26:53But I feel like me and my mom still has to talk about her
26:56telling me to stay in the child's place because I feel the way.
27:00Check it out.
27:01Y'all gotta come dance to DJ D-Vibe, come on.
27:32Here we go.
27:35Rainy bow.
27:38Are y'all having a good time?
27:41Good.
27:42Are you enjoying your cousins?
27:45Thumbs up.
27:52A baby frog.
27:53Oh, no.
27:54Good job.
27:56So you did a good job.
27:57This was amazing.
27:58It was so much fun.
28:01I had a good time.
28:03Good time.
28:04See, you glad you came, huh?
28:05No, for real.
28:06It was good.
28:07Yeah.
28:07Turned out amazing.
28:09Yeah, it did.
28:11Regardless, I can't top that for your dad.
28:15Yeah.
28:15That mean a lot.
28:17Love you.
28:19I love you.
28:19Thank you so much, baby.
28:25And I'm so proud of my baby, not just for doing this,
28:29but I'm also proud of her for just dropping her ego,
28:33putting everything aside, apologizing to her mom.
28:37I'm looking forward to seeing their family dynamic grow.
28:41This was a dope family reunion.
28:42It's time to get out of New Orleans.
28:45All right, DJ, hit it with the beat.
29:00Get the feel on my body, but you ain't getting out of the jump.
29:03Ain't nobody, so we can pass my line if you ain't got nothing for me.
29:06Yeah, I give respect to get mine, but I don't see a mama that's a flexer.
29:11Giving trail vibe, feels fine.
29:13And if he broke and said he hit, that's a damn lie.
29:16I only smoke the best and my best cruisin' through the west.
29:18Chain on my chest, wind blowin' through my fresh press.
29:21And I'm blessed.
29:22So pay me what you want me.
29:24I want it all, nothing less.
29:30Coming up on Toya and Reginae.
29:33I want to know who told Toya about me and Mel.
29:40I don't never want my mama to feel like I'm laughing at her pain.
29:43You just have a lot with everybody.
29:59Don't make something happen.
30:02Yeah, boy, it is hot out here.
30:04I ain't lying.
30:05It's hot as ****.
30:05Beating them on the way?
30:07Come on, man.
30:07I'm on the call.
30:08They about to see where they at.
30:10It's so beautiful over here.
30:12Like the scenery, the perfect place to brunch.
30:15I'll tell you, you know, black people.
30:17Hi.
30:18I thought y'all was lying.
30:19Did y'all get the all black memo?
30:20Hey, my Barbies.
30:22Oh, my bad.
30:22I thought y'all was lying.
30:24I thought y'all was lying.
30:25Why you don't have all black on?
30:27Oh, my bad.
30:28If that was the case, I could've wore what I wanted.
30:30Gotta be a rebel.
30:31Gotta be a rebel.
30:32I told them that.
30:33Didn't have.
30:33At least I got black and white, though.
30:35Well, I could've wore black and white, too.
30:37Yeah, you got to be the rebel, y'all.
30:39The rebel, right?
30:40It wouldn't be right, honey.
30:41Wouldn't be right.
30:42Yeah.
30:42I was telling Walter about our trip.
30:44I told him I ain't want to hit nothing until y'all come ready.
30:48Man, let me know everything.
30:50Don't miss a beat.
30:51I want to know everything.
30:52Well, we got to download you, baby.
30:54Casey and I went to the therapy session.
30:58We did it.
30:59Oh.
30:59We did it.
30:59You did it.
31:00Hey, how you doing?
31:01I'm good.
31:01How are you?
31:02Hello.
31:02Great.
31:03How you doing?
31:03Yeah, sweetie, give me one of them waters ASAP.
31:05That's hot as shit.
31:07Give me one of them ASAP.
31:11So, yeah.
31:12Thank you, though.
31:12Thank you, sweetie.
31:13I just felt like therapy was a good thing for me.
31:16It helped me talk to y'all better.
31:18OK.
31:18You know, because I be angry, right?
31:20You know, I deal with them anger management issues.
31:23And Brittany helped me, like, calm it down.
31:26You have to be open-minded to doing things differently.
31:29What are you willing to do, starting today,
31:31so that you can get back on track?
31:33I can't keep making the same mistakes over and over,
31:36thinking I'm going to get different results.
31:38And you got to remember, it starts with you.
31:40You know, treat people how you want to be treated.
31:44I'm working on that.
31:45That's something.
31:46Right.
31:46Right.
31:47And I like that.
31:47That I'm changing about myself.
31:49I'm sorry, you know, if I ever came at you the wrong way,
31:54you know?
31:55OK.
31:55I love that.
31:57I love that.
31:58Even though things are getting a little better
32:00between me and Casey, I still feel like he
32:03has so much work to do.
32:05I'm really trying to be cautious and not really
32:07get my hopes up with Casey, because it's like you
32:10never know what to expect.
32:14What are you doing, son?
32:16Why are you taking a knife, scratching your ear?
32:18They got gnats and stuff flying around.
32:20Huh?
32:20They got gnats and stuff flying around.
32:23What do the girls do on dates?
32:25I don't know.
32:25I'm not even going to lie to you, boy.
32:28I'm starting to think that the woman that you're getting
32:31in your life are just as foo-foo as you.
32:34You what?
32:36This scratch in his ear with a butter knife.
32:39For one, you can cut yourself.
32:42And it's nasty.
32:43It's not sanitary.
32:45You don't know where this butter knife been at.
32:48It's just crazy, bro.
32:49Casey's something, man.
32:51He's really special.
32:53So now that we all together, I want to know who told Toya
32:56about me and Mel.
32:57Huh?
32:58You told Toya something.
32:58You the one who told me.
32:59I didn't tell Toya about Mel, because I've been met.
33:01Toya got me blocked.
33:02So how the hell I told Toya about Mel?
33:04You told Toya about Mel.
33:05But honestly speaking, I was about to tell her.
33:07I was like, that really hurt my feelings like that.
33:09Everybody knew about that.
33:10Like, wow.
33:11What is going on?
33:12You don't know what they knew.
33:13I know.
33:15The thing was, it wasn't that easy.
33:17I just didn't know how she was going to take it.
33:20I thought she just went like, OK, well, I mean.
33:22But did you consider how I was going to take it hearing that
33:24everybody else knew and I didn't?
33:26Oh, did you consider that?
33:27I honestly, I didn't.
33:28My feelings?
33:29My sister may be upset that I kept the secret,
33:32you know, that me and Mel are back together.
33:34But I just hope she understands that it wasn't that easy,
33:37you know, to express that, especially
33:39how everything went down.
33:41I definitely need to talk to Mel and set up
33:43her talking to my sister.
33:45You know, I'm just ready for that talk.
33:47Oh, my God.
33:47So did y'all get a chance to, like, really mingle
33:50with our siblings and stuff?
33:52Like, just to know?
33:53Yeah, I got the chance to mingle with all of them, like.
33:56To see all y'all, y'all.
33:57I talked to y'all, y'all, like, one on one.
33:59Well, you was on the phone, like, you know.
34:03I was stressed out, girl.
34:04Oh, yeah, it was a lot going on.
34:06I know you was.
34:06We really wish you could have been there.
34:09Maybe you could have helped me, like,
34:11keep the conversation going.
34:12Because these two was in their own world.
34:17Once my daddy cried, I never seen him cry.
34:19So that kind of got me, like, a little emo.
34:22I was like, oh, my God.
34:24And he cried, too.
34:25And that kind of made me emotional, too.
34:28Like, mama, she, uh, like, how she deal with her pain,
34:33she laugh it off.
34:34Yeah, yeah.
34:35And that kind of, that kind of thrilled in me.
34:38Like, it's like it's.
34:40That crippled us.
34:41That crippled us, because it's like,
34:43that's another thing that, yeah, it's like,
34:45we don't never want to take it serious.
34:48Like, we always want to joke it all.
34:50We don't never want to face it.
34:51You know what I'm saying?
34:52And I'm kind of like that, too.
34:53Like, things being serious and really, you know, real.
34:59We don't want to really face that real life.
35:02When being around family, it can trigger a pain
35:06that sometimes you will overlook within yourself.
35:09You know, there's a lot of things that we try to avoid
35:13and overlook purposely within ourselves.
35:17But when being around your family,
35:20sometimes you can't help but to notice it.
35:22You know what I'm saying?
35:25Now that we're on the right track,
35:27and God has blessed us,
35:29but now we just got to stick together as one,
35:31as a family, and all of us just.
35:33See how he go back to some real shit now?
35:36See, this bitch need medication.
35:39But I still do.
35:39I apologize.
35:41I still do on my apology.
35:43You like my mama right now.
35:44Oh, look at this bitch here.
35:46I want my apology.
35:47Wait on it.
35:48You still ain't unblocked me yet.
35:52You got to show.
35:54We're here.
35:55We're here.
35:55You see how you go with that get, get, get.
35:57No, I'm saying baby step.
35:58We're here.
35:59You're at the table now.
36:00That's you go with that get, get, get.
36:01But she said baby step.
36:02Baby step.
36:03That's how it got to be.
36:04Yeah, baby step, baby.
36:06It got to be like that.
36:06All right.
36:07Come on, we're going to take our picture.
36:08Yeah, come on.
36:09We out of here, baby.
36:10Because all these baby shits and all this.
36:13Me and my siblings are in a really good place.
36:16Do I think it's going to last?
36:18I don't know.
36:18But with them, you just have to take it day by day.
36:21Because you never know where we're going to end up.
36:25You definitely got on white.
36:26That would have looked odd.
36:27You can't hug them both and leave me out, bitch.
36:29You got to get the fuck around with you.
36:31You see what I'm talking about?
36:32You can't hug them both and leave me out.
36:34No, facts.
36:35What phone are we looking at?
36:36We don't want to look cock out.
36:37All right, come on.
36:39I got my swagger back.
37:10Meedi, can I come out yet?
37:16Not yet.
37:17OK.
37:18Oh, she's here.
37:29Hey.
37:29Hey.
37:30How you doing?
37:31Good, how you doing?
37:32I'm doing great.
37:32Where you want me to go?
37:34OK, so you can set up.
37:37You can set up right here.
37:39All right, cuckoo, cuckoo, cuckoo.
37:41Oh my god, perfect timing.
37:46What's she doing?
37:48In New Orleans, I was definitely missing Mel.
37:50I decided to do something really nice for her, you know,
37:52especially during these times that we're trying to heal
37:55from the car accident.
37:57Oh, you're so cute.
38:01Hello.
38:01Hi, I'm Jada.
38:03Hi, Jada.
38:04Well, you know, I had to do the rose petals and the little candles
38:07to show her that I love her, you know,
38:09and that if she's going to talk to my sister soon,
38:12I also wanted to know that I also have her back this time.
38:15Well, we cheers in two.
38:17To getting better and being alive.
38:21Being alive.
38:23I'm glad you back.
38:24I know, babe, I was missing you.
38:26I missed you too.
38:28How was your trip?
38:30It was really good, but it was a lot at the same time.
38:34Oh, Lord.
38:35Yeah, don't get me wrong.
38:36I loved everything.
38:37I loved meeting all my siblings,
38:40but I got heated with my dad and my mom out the blue.
38:44Like, my mom got emotional.
38:47My dad got really emotional.
38:49And to me, all of us emotional, you know.
38:51They holding in a lot of emotions as well.
38:55Yeah.
38:56Me and my family definitely has a lot of feelings to unpack
38:59after this trip.
39:00There's definitely a lot of things that be going on that,
39:02you know, a lot of us don't speak on.
39:05My mom been holding all of that hurt and resentment for years.
39:08And honestly, I feel her on that.
39:11It was like crazy at the table.
39:13Like, it was my mom.
39:15She felt like everyone was just laughing at her.
39:17I don't think my sister caught that though.
39:25It was, whew, girl, I felt like terrible after.
39:29I'm like, damn.
39:31After everything happened,
39:32I was able to see it from your perspective.
39:34Yes.
39:35My husband perspective, my daughter's perspective.
39:38I don't ever want my mom to feel like I'm laughing at her pain,
39:41like, in front of everybody and not defending her
39:44because that's not what it was.
39:47This reunion has changed the way I see my mom and her struggles.
39:50I wasn't seeing it the way that Danielle, Nate, and Red
39:55were seeing it.
39:56None of her kids taking up for her.
39:57That's between them two.
39:59They need to talk about that.
40:01How did you get thrown in it?
40:02Grandpa just watched that.
40:03Nobody took up for her.
40:06Didn't know their mom.
40:08Exactly, exactly.
40:10So you be a grandpa.
40:12Now I have to apologize to Nate.
40:14I had a little moment with her there
40:16and I just didn't want her to insert herself into something
40:20because it was turning it into something else.
40:22It made me look at Nita's whole lifestyle
40:25in a different perspective
40:27because with everything that she's been through in her life,
40:31she probably has always felt like nobody had her back.
40:33But it's like we don't see it all the time
40:36or we probably never saw it.
40:38Never.
40:39But that's a step in the right direction
40:42for what you want from her.
40:44It is.
40:48But honestly, I think you just have a lot with everybody
40:53that you may not be able to tap in and see
40:57sometimes what's really going on
41:00because you got Casey over here
41:02and then you got your mama
41:03and then you got Walter who just came home.
41:05You're trying to figure out what's that dynamic.
41:07You got BD over here.
41:09Y'all have some type of disconnect
41:12that you can't figure that out.
41:16But wait, has BD brought Mel around yet since you know?
41:22I guess I would say I'm anxious now to talk to your sister.
41:26I just feel like stuff just needs to be clear.
41:30Definitely got to get that clear.
41:32I don't know.
41:32I just hope everything goes well with that.
41:36Nothing?
41:36No, she didn't bring Mel around.
41:38I only saw Mel at the hospital.
41:39That's it.
41:41But she did tell me she wanted me to talk to Mel.
41:44Oh, yeah.
41:48I definitely want to have a conversation with Mel.
41:51I'm not against it at all.
41:53But I think BD needs to wait
41:55until I'm kind of ready for that conversation.
41:58I just hope that BD doesn't let it go down like last time
42:01because I just really don't want to deal with any of that.
42:06Considering how emotionally drained Toya is right now,
42:09BD should not force this conversation with Toya
42:13because it has to be the right time in the right place.
42:15And if it's not, of course, it's definitely going to go left.
42:19Oh, you got a lot on your plate, sis.
42:22You being pulled in so many different directions.
42:25Honestly, you really got to slow it down.
42:39Next on Toya and Reginae.
42:42I've never really seen Grandpa how he was acting like that.
42:45I felt like he was coming in like taking sides,
42:48and I didn't want that.
42:49You give off a high energy like you above everybody.
42:52No, you don't get that mother****** energy.
42:54I don't want this right here.
42:56I don't want this right here.
42:57I don't got to deal with it no more.