00:00What is most beautiful about me?
00:05You look like me.
00:07True.
00:08Eyes.
00:09Eyes.
00:09Eyes.
00:10Okay.
00:10Pretty brown.
00:23Growing up, who were your beauty icons?
00:26Girl, who were your beauty icons?
00:30Did I have any?
00:33I've always loved Angela.
00:35Is it Angela Bassett?
00:36Mm-hmm.
00:37I thought she was very beautiful.
00:38Raquel Welch, she was our Hispanic woman, and of course all the novelas.
00:44Yeah.
00:45You have all the novelas.
00:46They all look the same though.
00:47Right, but that was glamorous for me.
00:50What have I taught you about beauty and competence?
00:56I feel like you didn't even focus on beauty.
01:01I feel like you focused more.
01:05Are you getting emotional?
01:06I saw that you were self-conscious about how you looked, and that pushed me to focus on
01:24what really matters.
01:25It's what's inside, and not about what we're lacking, but what we have.
01:32Yes, and I do realize that I did lack self-confidence, and that was my fear that I would pass that
01:45on to you, so I feel that I was a little strong and aggressive about being confident and your
01:53confidence because I was compensating for what I felt, and I knew that I wasn't bringing to you.
01:59Yeah, but you are beautiful, and I was always confused, like why does my mom not feel that way?
02:08Because I see you as one of the most beautiful women that I know, and I don't know if it's because
02:13there was a lack of resources, like we didn't have a lot growing up, so our focus wasn't
02:26how we look, but more like the type of people that we are.
02:32When did you start doing your own hair, and what did you like doing differently to your hair than
02:40what I did to it?
02:41Oh god, okay.
02:42I think high school is when I started doing my hair more, but that's, I just got a straightener,
02:49and started using bio silk, and like straightened my hair, and then curl it, but it looks exactly
02:57the way it does when it's naturally wavy, so I don't know why I would curl it.
03:02It was the thought of.
03:03Yeah, it just damaged it.
03:05Oh lord, what was your favorite hairstyle to put me in?
03:09You already know.
03:13Well, I think there's several.
03:16But my favorite was, of course, the all-time bun, and then when I wanted to be different,
03:23it was the two buns, remember?
03:25Yes.
03:25One bun on each side.
03:26Two buns.
03:27Miss Minnie Mouse.
03:28Yeah.
03:28I thought it was so cute.
03:29I did like the Minnie Mouse buns, but I liked when you would braid them.
03:33Oh yes, there was the Leia.
03:34Yeah, that was the Princess Leia.
03:36I thought that was cute at the time.
03:38How would you describe my signature look?
03:43You wear a lot of neutral colors, a lot of black.
03:49Your jewelry's never heavy.
03:51It's always like, it touches something.
03:54Like you got an earring, or you got a necklace, but you're never in your face.
04:00It's very classic and simple.
04:02Boring?
04:04No, no, not boring.
04:06It's simple.
04:08Simple.
04:09There's nothing wrong with simple.
04:10Good.
04:11Lisa?
04:11Yes.
04:12Okay.
04:13How has your idea of beauty changed as you've gotten older?
04:18I don't think that it's changed.
04:20I still focus on what we have, because beauty is pretty much, as they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
04:29And for me, it's always been your personality, your inside, and that's what matters most.
04:35And that's what I would always want you to remember, at least for us.
04:40Yeah, I agree.
04:42But I think growing up, even growing up in the real Grand Valley, I still thought that blue eyes,
04:50blonde hair, straight hair was ideal.
04:54And so whenever a girl in school had those types of features, even though it was predominantly
05:01Mexicanos, still they were sought to be the most beautiful, even though the majority was Latinas.
05:07What's one beauty lesson you've learned from me?
05:12What's one beauty lesson?
05:13Yeah.
05:13To embrace what I feel is not beauty.
05:21You are teaching me how to love my hair and be okay with my thick eyebrows.
05:27Yeah.
05:28And I'm sometimes embarrassed that I, as a mother, as a grown woman,
05:35and learning from my child. But those are things that I find pride in, that you have.
05:41So I just tend to want to embrace your opinion, because I value your opinion in all aspects,
05:47not just beauty.
05:51What is most beautiful about me?
05:54Everything.
05:55Why would we ask?
05:56I think your eyes. I love your eyebrows. And your hair. Take it.
06:15I can go like on and on about like what's beautiful on the inside.
06:18But it just still blows my mind how you raised me at 19.
06:28I think that has a lot to say about your spirit, your perseverance.
06:41Yeah, I don't know how you did it.
06:42Tell us about the different style beauty phases I've been through.
06:49I feel like I've done them all.
06:51Yes.
06:52That girl, Avril Lavigne.
06:54Yeah, I know.
06:55That's the hot topic. That's right.
06:59The tie with sprucing up the polo shirt. You would put a tie, you would wear a tie.
07:04Your bands. Yeah.
07:07Then you had your braids.
07:10Took you to Mexico to get them done.
07:12Mind you.
07:16But they've all been cute.
07:17You've wrapped all of them, babe.
07:21How is being a mother to a teen different than a mother to a 20-something?
07:27Have I changed?
07:29I was going to say, I don't know that there is much of a difference.
07:32I've always been the same.
07:36Trying to be open and having heart-to-heart conversations as much as we could.
07:42Yeah, I don't know if...
07:45That's my perspective. I could be wrong.
07:48No, I feel like it's always kind of been the same relationship.
07:51I mean, I don't know what it's like mothering a teen daughter or a 20-something,
07:56but I feel like our relationship has always kind of been open, honest.
07:58Yeah, but I feel like now that I'm getting older, I'm like, oh, like if I knew my mom,
08:05I'd be her friend.
08:09Yeah.
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