The truth is, a lot of us have experienced the big ‘no-nos’ of dating, like the little clues that key us into whether or not this person sitting across the dinner table from us is a keeper or not. However, we pay attention to the red flags so much, that we may miss out on the green flags - the good things about the person sitting in front of you. Is the person you're dating really the one for you? Let's take a look at some of the green flags on dating!
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00:20 Do you feel that your dating life is in a bit of a slump?
00:24 Does it feel like everyone who asks you out has red flags?
00:28 Are you looking out for all the little clues
00:30 that will tell you whether your date
00:32 sitting across the table is a keeper or not?
00:35 The way your date is chewing with their mouth open
00:38 and spewing food everywhere may be a red flag.
00:41 Or maybe you've had bigger red flags,
00:44 like if they bore you to death
00:45 or can't stop talking about past relationships,
00:48 or has an odd obsession with cat outfits.
00:52 You might be ticking off the red flags
00:54 so much that you miss out on the green flags.
00:56 And that's right, there are good things
00:58 about the person sitting in front of you.
01:00 So here are six green flags on dating
01:03 you should be aware of.
01:04 Number one, you can talk for hours,
01:07 but it seems like minutes.
01:09 You can lose your sense of time
01:10 when you're with the right person.
01:12 Sometimes hours can pass by when a lively conversation
01:16 with a great date grabs your attention.
01:18 This could be a sign that you genuinely enjoy
01:20 hanging out with your date
01:21 and aren't just checking off boxes
01:23 to see if they're a perfect fit for you.
01:25 Number two, they actively listen to you.
01:28 If your date makes it a point
01:30 to keep up a healthy conversation with you,
01:32 like remembering to route back to certain topics
01:34 and refers back to points you made earlier,
01:36 that's a green flag.
01:38 This means that they are actively listening to you.
01:41 They'll genuinely keep the conversation going
01:43 because they want to hear what you have to say.
01:46 When you like someone,
01:47 you want to know as much as you can about them.
01:49 What are their interests?
01:50 What's their taste in music?
01:52 What TV shows are they watching?
01:53 What kind of hobbies are they into?
01:55 What makes them laugh?
01:57 You want to get to know these things about your date
01:59 because you're interested in them
02:00 and want to show enthusiasm in getting to know them better.
02:03 If they show that same level of enthusiasm
02:05 in getting to know you, then that's a very good sign.
02:09 Either that or they're secretly a spy.
02:13 Number three, they're kind to the waiter.
02:16 How your date treats the waiter
02:18 can be a valuable insight into their character.
02:21 Is your date going out of their way
02:22 to complain about your waiter to you?
02:24 Do they lose their patience with them?
02:26 Or are they kind and patient and respectful of your waiter?
02:30 If you pay attention
02:32 to how your date treats the wait staff,
02:34 it can give you some interesting details about who they are
02:37 and how they handle stress.
02:38 Even if it's just being patient enough
02:40 to wait for your order of chicken wings to arrive.
02:43 Chicken wings, is this making anyone else hungry?
02:47 Number four, being around them feels natural.
02:52 You can get nervous around someone that you like,
02:54 that's normal.
02:55 But on the flip side,
02:56 if you find you're calm and comfortable around this person,
02:59 then that's a green flag.
03:01 Everyone gets some nervous butterflies on the first date.
03:03 But if those flutterings in your belly
03:05 give way to a sense of ease and comfortability
03:08 as the date goes on, then that's a very good sign
03:11 that there could be a positive lasting spark between you two.
03:14 Number five, they're not distracted by their phone.
03:18 If you find yourself on a date
03:19 where the other person isn't consistently eyeing their phone,
03:22 then this is an obvious green flag.
03:25 If someone isn't interested in what you're saying,
03:27 and they aren't honed in on you and the date,
03:29 they might bring out their phone to occupy themselves.
03:32 Putting their phone away
03:33 and giving you their full undivided attention
03:35 shows that they want to be fully engaged with you.
03:38 It shows that the time the two of you are spending together
03:41 is important to them.
03:42 And number six, you find yourself smiling all the time.
03:49 Did they make you laugh?
03:51 Do you feel comfortable talking to them?
03:53 Are they kind to you?
03:54 Do you feel happy around them?
03:57 Do you like who you are when you're with them?
03:59 These are all types of questions you can ask yourself
04:01 to see if you wanna go on a second date.
04:03 If you find yourself coming home from that first date
04:05 with all smiles that don't go away,
04:08 then you may have found your match.
04:10 It's a green flag, go.
04:12 Do you think knowing about these positive green flags
04:16 will help you on your next date?
04:18 Are there any other you think we missed?
04:20 Let us know about any green flags for dating you have
04:23 in the comments below.
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